Marriage may be a two-way street, but that doesn't mean you should travel in opposite directions. Experts know what steers good marriages; here are some couple-strengthening tips:
TALK, BUT DON'T TALK BACK. Tell your partner how you feel and what you need. When you're the listener, don't criticize, debate, dismiss or problem-solve. Recognise that your partner's concerns are as important as yours.
BE OPTIMISTIC. Keep your comments positive - even when discussing problems - and make the efforts to remember and appreciate the good in your relationship.
LEARN TO LEAVE AN ARGUMENT before it's out of control. Tactics include cracking a joke, showing appreciation and backing down.
SHARE YOUR DREAMS. And find a way to help your spouse realize his or hers.
BE FLEXIBLE. When your souse asks you to be accommodating, try.
GO ON DATE. Couples need time as twosomes, to reconnect.
